Saturday, February 28, 2009

The Movie I Can't Wait to See

The Greatest Movie on Earth...Alright, I'm probably exaggerating. But let me tell you this... I'M A DISNEY FINATIC! Really, I grew up watching Disney movies over and over with my younger siblings. I would challenge anyone in a Disney trivia game, and I own every Disney Classic (the cartoon ones) from Pinocchio to Ratatouille all on DVD. I just need Wall-E and I'm set! My mom collected the movies on VHS when I was younger, so this DVD collection I hope to keep up with so all of my kids can appreciate them like I do.

Growing up I dressed up as many of the Disney princess characters: Belle, Ariel (red wig and all), Jasmine, Pocahontas, oh the list goes on! I loved them all! But NOW my future little girls will have a princess that looks like THEM... Princess Tiana, in Disney's "The Princess and the Frog."

I'm sooooo excited! Isn't it about time Disney gets a black princess?! I'm so glad that's going to happen this year! And better yet... It's going to be a musical, going back to the Disney roots I LOVE--Hand drawn characters, singing, dancing, colorful! So. Dang. Excited. ! ! !

I haven't dragged my husband to a Disney movie in a looong time so he owes me this one. It doesn't come out until November but I'm already watching for every updated preview I can get my hands on. Here's the latest:






Friday, February 27, 2009

The Blog-a-holic

I know I've become addicted to blogging when:

-I take a picture SPECIFICALLY for the purpose of putting it on my blog

-I start a story and I'm stopped with "I know, I read your blog"

-My colleges at work tell me they now know A LOT more about me now

-I haven't said more than two sentences to my husband on my day off because I'm catching up on my blog writing

-I'm excited to have an iPhone so I don't have to lug my whole computer into the bathroom with me while I Twitter.

-I still lug the whole computer into the bathroom with me when I'm on a good writing high.

-My dog cries and tries to jump on my lap, but he's been replaced by my laptop

-I'm trying to figure out how I can save $400 FAST so I can go to BlogHer

-I hear the word feed and don't relate it to food

-I'm staying up late to be one of the first to check in for Roll Call at SITS

-I feel guilty that I actually have to go to WORK and I can't stay at home and catch up with all my blog friends' blogs and leave comments.

-I get anxious and feel bad when I haven't posted in a WHOLE 24 hours!

-I wonder if anyone else has noticed that I haven't posted in 24 hours

-When I feel SO good because I have the whole weeks worth of posts scheduled to publish

-I get slightly depressed when that scheduled list shrinks down to 0

-I start cheering and running around the house when I see I have a new follower

-I start to cry when I see I've lost 10 followers in one day (only to find out that it was a blogger glitch later... Good news, it's not cause I'm boring!)

-I try to tell my husband about a post I'm working on and when he looks at me strange I just tell him he just doesn't understand

-I test out random marriage and parenthood questions on my husband anticipating using his answers as a topic for my blog

-I try to think of a way to incorporate the phrase "I have a blog" in my church talk and am disappointed when I can't find a way to fit it in

-I'd much rather blog than sleep

-I'd much rather blog than eat

-After reading a great article in some parenting magazine or website, instead of thinking "wow, that will be great to remember for my family" I think "What a great topic for my blog!"

-I get excited every time I hear the tone telling me I have a new email message... Hoping and praying it's a new comment on my blog

-Writing in my blog is on my to-do list

-I'm surprised at the fact that I have 25, no, 26 things on this list!

Have anymore?






Thursday, February 26, 2009

The Coolest Thing Ever!!

Shortly after I started blogging I came across a blog that I fell in love with called My Brown Baby. About the same time I started reading articles about the perfect age to have kids, and other topics on Parenting.com.

I followed @mybrownbaby on twitter and noticed the mommy of the month feature. I jokingly asked if I qualified... I didn't. But she did ask me to do a guest post. I was so honored... But I was even more honored when I realized that the author of My Brown Baby and one of the contributing writers for Parenting.com is the same woman! Oh and she also has a book she wrote with Steve Harvey that's currently #1 on the New York Times Best Sellers List!: "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man" and she's done a bazillion other awesome things, but I'll let you read more about her on her blog.

Basically, in regards to my parenting research, the name Denene Milner kept coming up everywhere. I swear I've noticed it on at least five different websites... And now, my name is on hers! Woop!

So check out my post for today over here at My Brown Baby.



Wednesday, February 25, 2009

The Octuplets

I'd like to have eight kids at one time... NOT. By the title of my blog, people may confuse me with this woman but No... That's not my style. I was asked what I thought about that woman and her situation. I am surprised a woman with six kids would chose to try to have six more! I am more surprised that the doctor actually went through with it!

But to be honest, I am kind of sick of hearing about her, talking about her and making her more famous is only fueling the fire so this is all I'm going to dedicate to this topic.




Tuesday, February 24, 2009

The Reason I Can't...

I can think of a bunch of reasons why I should have a kid right now, and about a dozen reasons why I shouldn't. But the #1 reason why I can't have a kid right now... I told my best friend I'd wait for her.

Shannon and I have been best friends since the fourth grade... And I mean BEST friends. She met my husband before any of my family did (and lucky for him she approved).

We don't talk on the phone as much as we like but when we do we can easily pick up where we left off. I was her matron of honor, and she will be my children's Godmother. We've lasted though moves across the country, and rare vacations to visit each other. Basically there's LOTS of history... And we told each other we'd have kids together.... Well, not together but you know what I mean. We're hoping we'll at least be living in the same state when we have kids, and that we can go through the whole pregnancy process together.
When I agreed to the pact I had no objections. I was already married and she was dating her now husband at the time. I knew it would be about five years before my husband and I would even be THINKING about having kids, and she'd be bit by the baby bug shortly after getting married and VIOLA, we'd be ready at the same time!

Well, as my five year mark is quickly approaching, and my baby fever is reaching a boil, neither of us are thinking of really making the plunge. I think if she jumped I'd jump, but she's not going to jump with me yet. We're SO much alike... Even when it comes to this topic. Both of us crave stability, reassurance, knowledge of the fact that we'll be able to EAT, and both of us love our career choices.

Shannon will be a great, world class veterinarian one day. I'm sure I'll be interviewing her about some innovative procedure she invented on my nationally televised talk show... But until then, we are both trying to get by as students/amateurs and find the right time to jump into the game of double dutch aka parenting.

...But I think my time line is shrinking at a faster rate than hers.
If you couldn't tell, I've been thinking about it a lot lately. I told her about my blog but it scared her... I can't have kids yet. DUH!! Why am I even thinking about it? We're suppose to do this together... Not exactly, but you know what I mean.

Did you have a similar pact with a friend or family member? Did you stick with it?
I guess I cold be having #2 when she's having #1 but that's just not the same... Is it?



Monday, February 23, 2009

The Feature!

Hello friends! Guess what? I am a featured reader over at La Dolce Vita! I'm so excited about this , I have a chance to win a cool prize! What prize-- You ask? Well I haven't decided yet but if I win I'm either going to get this:
Or this:
Kristen makes these cute little charms for her Etsy shop, and if I win I get one of these!

See, I like the first one because it pertains to my blog and this feature is kind of about my blog and I would always remember it's meaning cause ya know, I'd be winning it because of this blog. I could have it say something like "Future Mama" instead if I wanted since that's sorta my new "code name"... I dunno, I like Mom 2 Be. (Though I probably wouldn't wear it until I am expecting so I wouldn't scare my husband or confuse my friends).

The second one I like too cause it's TOTALLY us! Yep yep, I love my hubby more and more every day. Plus I won't feel like a complete psycho for having "wanna be mom" stuff when I'm not even pregnant... Not even close. Would you make fun of me? It's ok if your answer is yes... I'd probably make fun of me too if I saw myself wearing it. But it's cute and fitting too so I just don't know!

So I need your help. FIRST!! In order to win in the first place I have to get comments on my feature here. The more comments I get the more entries I get. So comeon y'all, help me to beat the odds!(*update* You can comment/vote once a day for 7 days)

SECOND...
Let me know which one you like, haha! I'm up against four other featured people and if I win I get one of those necklaces but I need your help to choose which one, I like them both equally!!

Thanks again for all of your love! I really am learning so much from you all through your comments, and you truly crack me up! I thought I was funny... But no... Y'all are the great ones!

Oh, and just so you know... Mondays and Tuesdays are my "weekend" so that's when I get a chance to stalk your blogs back! Can't wait!


Saturday, February 21, 2009

The Snip Snip

It has come to my attention that some women think after taking mass amounts of hormones for years, and/or mapping your cycle religiously, then pushing 8+ pound babies out of our whoohas, it's not fair for us to ALSO have to get our Baby Makin' organs tied or removed... HE should do it. Isn't all that we do enough? And to just tie us up when we're done just seems... Wrong.

A few friends at work were talking about it. "I don't want to have to go under the knife again after all that." They have a point. So does Kristen over at Motherhood Uncensored. She broke it down plain and simple.

But I'm not sure what I think. I always thought on my third kid they can just tie me up while they're down there, but I guess that's only the case if you have a C-section. But really, women, are we just saying this out of spite? Is it because we can't make them have babies, take birth control pills or defer our visits from Aunt Flow to them? Is sterilization our only chance for revenge therefore we jump at the opportunity? --I'm not saying one way or another, I'm just asking.

Yea, it's fun to bring it up an see him squirm, I'm not gonna lie, that's dang funny! Butmy birth control hasn't given me horrible side effects and I haven't been through pregnancy or labor. I'm sure after I've experienced an ounce of pain my mind will most likely lean in the direction of HIM getting the snippity snip. But for now, I think I'm open to being the one responsible. Besides... We do everything else anyway, why stop there?


Friday, February 20, 2009

The Things They Don't Tell You...

I like surprises, but only if they're good. If they're bad, I don't like surprises. Lately I've been getting the dish from one of my friends about all of the things they DON'T tell you about pregnancy (or the time soon-there-after).

First off... You're actually pregnant for 10 months? Waaah? 9 months, ok maybe, but 10 months? Forget it.

When you're water breaks, it doesn't come out all in one gush. Apparently it keeps going and going. I'll have to remember to buy a bag of Depends. (And as you can see from my Dream post I've been having nightmares about this one).

Apparently there's a "plug" that comes out about a week before your water breaks. I'm not sure I'm ready to Google that fact yet, I hear it's pretty gross.

You don't just sit in bed the whole time you're in labor. You walk, apparently sometimes even crawl around.

Every time you hear a baby crying... Even on TV, your boobs will leak (or spray).

Breast feeding hurts.

Thrush? Something about it transferring to boobs?... Don't wanna know.

Your feet grow! My feet are already a size 11 so I hope that's not true!

Afterpains... I guess it's pain after pregnancy, and can hurt worse than labor?!!?

The Epidural gives you the shakes.

What else don't I know? Don't worry, I can handle it! If anything, maybe it'll cure me of my baby fever!

Thursday, February 19, 2009

The Replacement-- Not quite

It took me three years to convince my husband that we should get a dog. I knew they take a lot of patients and practice. My family went through a dozen dogs growing up, none of them ever even made it to being house broken, so I was nervous about it, but when the time was right (last Valentines) we adopted Snoop from a local shelter.

When new moms at work or church talk about little things and experiences with their new baby I can't help but chime in with "Yea, I know! With my puppy..." And I usually get the same strange look in response. I don't mean to compare my love for my dog with their love for their child because believe me... I know there's a difference. But in my eyes, there are a lot of similarities.

I did come across a blog a week or so ago (the name slips my mind, if it was you let me know and I'll insert link here) about a woman who said she couldn't believe how some people have dogs instead of children. She had a cute picture of the comparison between a dog and her cute baby. Her baby was way cuter than the dog pictured but that's not always the case.Take this for example:

I thought my husband and I would be good candidates for having a cute baby but ever since trying the computerized analalysis and seeing we have a possibility of our baby looking like this:And I've changed my mind. Umm, totally white? Lopsided cheeks? If that's the case I do think my dog here:is cuter. I love Snoop, but he's not my replacement child. He will always have a special place in my heart, even after human spawn.

However, I have been thinking lately of how my dog is great practice for a child. Here are a few things I've thought of:

1. Building maternal instincts: When he wakes up in the middle of the night I jump up... It's become an instinct. He usually has to either go outside to go potty, or rush outside to puke (after sneaking some snaks).

2. Getting mom smart: I've learned to learn. I've been reading a lot of "parenting" books about raising a dog, how to be a "pack leader" and really trying to follow through.

3. Mommy talk good and bad: It's easy to let your children walk all over you. Same with my dog. Even I have a hard time holding my ground when he gives me his sad puppy eyes, and he knows when I mean business. I turn on my "serious mom" voice and he obeys. I also have my cute googoo mommy voice for when he's being all cute and cuddly. Oh, and I'm beginning to use mom phrases like: "Yea I can see you, I have eyes in the back of my head."

4. Selflessness: I know a lot of you may be chuckling at this right now but really... Baby steps ok? I use to hate to exercise but since getting Snoop and learning daily walks are crutial I've sacrificed sleep for his fitness.

5. Poop? Who cares?!: I'm use to gross things. Puke, poop, diarreah. I'm acustomed to it all now. And I don't know for sure but I'm guessing human stuff isn't as gross, and I know dog farts smell WAY worse.

6. Teaching skills: Just like I want to teach my kids... My dog knows good manners. No jumping on people, sitting before he's pet, that kind of stuff.

7. Homemaking: I learned how to sew just so I cold make him dog collars and matching leashes. This is kind of in the spoiling category but I think I'll be one of those people who wants to dress my baby in something different EVERY time we're out. I imagine that because I refuse to let my dog wear the same collar to Petsmart twice in a row... Usually he won't wear a duplicate for at least a month, and his collar and leash HAVE to match. And sometimes I'll wear a bandanna that matches his.

8. Healthcare: I take him to the veternarian regularly and stay very in-tune with his health needs.

9. Selective listening: I read a lot of blogs about women who lock themselves in the room away from their kids while the blog... Yea, I do that with my dog.

10. Patients: Lots of carpet shampoo, ripped jeans, chewed up shoes, 5 new sets of blinds, 2 training classes, lots of practice and a bark collar later, I've learned a lot of patients, and boy if you stick with it it pays off!

Sure, you can't throw a kid in the backyard all day, or leave them at home alone, but if you ask me, it's still good practice, and baby steps in the right direction.



Wednesday, February 18, 2009

The Dream

...Yea another one. Are we noticing a trend here? I dream a lot. Every night usually. And most of the time I remember my dreams. In the morning when I wake up I tell my husband about my crazy dream and he just sits, listens, and I imagine he wonders who the heck he married.

This dream was really weird though so if you still think I'm normal and want to keep it that way you don't have to read on.

Last night I had a dream I was pregnant. This felt soooo real. I must have been like 9 months pregnant cause I was HUGE. I was at work and my water broke. (Interpretation: A friend of mine told me about her water breaking experience not long ago and I think her telling me this contributed this next part to my dream.)

I went into the bathroom and the water/stuff just kept coming out... I kept reaching down to see if I could feel the baby's head too and was thinking the baby would come out at any moment cause it just felt weird (interpretation: I watched a Discovery health show where a lady birthed her baby into a toilet so I think that's contributed too). I was trying to get paper towels and towels and pads and everything to soak it up but it just kept coming out!

I was on the toilet when the weather guy at my job came up to me and told me I would be excused if I left work to go have my baby (good thing right? Cause normally we'd just birth them there?). But nonetheless, I felt relieved that I could go and I texted my mother-in-law that it was time to fly into town cause the baby was on its way!

I was stressed cause I was thinking that we only have one guest room in our new place and with two sets of parents coming where would everyone sleep? (Interpretation: I was talking to my husband last night about not having a 3rd bedroom for a nursery... He thinks "we are fine").

I don't remember the labor part of the dream but when my child was born it had an adult head that looked EXACTLY like a guy that I work with (interpretation: NO CLUE!).

What a strange dream. I usually have lots of dreams in one night but last night this dream just seemed to go on and on! And dream interpreters out there? And stabs at what this all means?


Tuesday, February 17, 2009

The Strange Request

I worry a lot, sometimes excessively. I also have a very bad case of "The what-if syndrome." Meaning I start with "what if..." then add an extreme example of a minute possibility, but still feel a definite need to think of how to solve the problem, or answer the question.

One of the questions I have is "What if my husband dies?" While I don't dwell on all of the details of that question the main, immediate problem I see is not about money, or even my sure-to-be life changing rage of depression... No, the thought that crosses my mind is having his babies... Still.

Some of you are probably wondering how that's possible. Others, like me, may be picking up what I'm putting down... And maybe a few of you are several steps ahead of me and already have a freezer full of your man's swimmers.

You read right. I'm talking about saving the goods for later. Storing a little bit of him in case he dies before we have kids. Extreme? Yes. But I think I have good intentions. I really would like to see what OUR kids would look like, and I want to have HIS kids!

I haven't asked him yet, but I'm pretty sure if I do he'll just look at me strange and assume I'm joking. Plus how do I bring something like that up? "Hey baby, here's a cup, do you mind...?"

I think this gives a whole new meaning to family planning.

Monday, February 16, 2009

The First...

Six-year-olds don't talk about what they do for a living, how long they've been married or when their going to have kids. They just wanted to know if that beautiful pink beauty with purple trim and sparkly streamers was mine... And oh yea, it was.

My first love wasn't the boy in 2nd grade, not my first boyfriend or even my husband... All of these loves came much, much later. My first love was my beautiful, nameless but charming inaugural bike.

It's a prize every child looks forward to getting at a certain point in their lives. I have no idea what age...8 or 9 maybe? When it came to bikes, I was a late bloomer compared to some of my friends. A bike for Christmas is a tradition I want to continue with my children. I imagine it's a feeling that warms your heart... Seeing your child shriek and beam at the first glimpse of that new bike under-Eer, next to, the Christmas tree.

That first bike isn't something you erase from your memory along with your Bio 101 midterm study guide. No--Your First bike is a memory you'll hold dear forever.

My pink piece of steel survived many hot summers trekking across the hot asphalt, up and down my neighborhood hill and most of all...round and round the cul-a-sac my house sat on (cause mom didn't want us to go very far).

Thinking of that bike takes me down a long road of memories. Riding my bike for the first time... without training wheels was like taking my dad's Cutlass around the block for the first time... Dangerously cool.

I got into my first car accident on that bike. She saved me from the bees. Oh, in Georgia the bees were HUGE, and they'd chase ya! Yea, she saved my life... And almost ended it a few times too.

...But the memory that over shines all those other pleasant memories of my bike is the horrid memory of when my bike, my beauty, my first baby, was stolen from me.

It was a sunny afternoon. I was riding around the cul-da-sac with my best friend and next-door-neighbor, Jenny.

We were riding and singing, and riding and playing... You know, typical 10-year-old girl stuff. But then I got the call... From nature.

I've always had a problem with holding my bladder. Not a problem keeping my bladder held, but a problem with pushing my bladder too far. Even to this day I refuse to use public restrooms, and many days I'll only go twice. Well, this day I made a mistake. As many kids do when they're having fun...I pushed it too far.

Without an explanation to my friend, I rode as far as I could up my sidewalk but I couldn't make it inside of the garage. The sitting position was too much. I jumped off, pulled my bike as far up the driveway as I could and did what my mother always told me not to... I dropped my bike on the lawn.

I knew I wouldn't be inside long. I'd of course go to the bathroom, then go back out. But that turned into getting a drink of water, some juice, a Popsicle then of course I wanted a snack.

I went back outside expecting to see Jenny but she was gone. 'Maybe she had to go too' I thought. But my mind quickly shifted to the void on the lawn... My precious was gone.

'Oh crap!' or something to that effect was the first thing that crossed my mind. The second was 'mom is going to kill me.' Then finally 'Noooooooo!!!'

I darted to Jenny's house, rang the doorbell and Jenny's mom answered. I'm not sure what she was thinking but I'm sure she must have thought I had just seen a neighbor kid get run over by a car by the expression on my face.

I told her what happened and she got Jenny. But Jenny knew nothing of my bike. She said she went home to eat lunch and didn't see anyone take it.

My heart dropped to my stomach. My stomach twisted into nothingness. My mind... Was lost.

I went berserk. Traveled door to door as far as I could before my parents got suspicious. I asked if anyone had seen my bike, or a bike thief. No luck.

It was time to meet my maker... My earthly maker that is.. Which that day, I'm pretty sure was scarier than the real.

Grounded--Of course. But really, who wants to play outside when you don't have a bike? Not me. Not when all of my other friends have bikes.

I suffered in silence for a few days. I imagined ways I could try to get it back... Fliers, phone calls, bribes... A lemonade stand to earn enough for a new bike. My parents weren't having it. I think they delighted in my suffering. Their punishment--My agony, was their joy.

Weeks later my parents dragged me with them on one of their grocery trips. On the way I noticed kids in the neighborhood up the street riding their bikes... Picking my wounds open again. But in a split second of a glimpse down a road (that was all it took) I noticed a boy riding what I knew was MY bike.

"STOP!!" I yelled, nearly giving my mom a heart attack and causing a family car accident. But before I was sentenced for that bad behavior I blurted the reason for my outcry.

"My bike! I saw a boy riding my bike!" They didn't believe me... and cursed me to silence the rest of the trip.

But on the way home I couldn't resist. I begged them to drive down the street I saw the perpetrator, and they humored me.

I scrutinized every house, lawn and child we passed. Then, as we turned the last corner I saw it... Lying beautifully in a yard I didn't recognize. I knew it was my bike. My parents did too. And though I didn't expected it, my parents got out of the car, and helped me steal my bike back.

I saw it as a stealth mission. Trying to be as sneaky and quick as possible... Stealing my prize back from its captor. But my parents weren't amused. They made sure it was mine, and helped me get it in the car and take it home.

My first bike was stolen twice. Once from my front yard by a random kid up the street. And stolen back by me.

Needless to say, the bike was never stolen again.

I learned a few things from my first bike. First and foremost: When you've gotta go... Go! Secondly: Listen to your parents, and don't leave your bike on the lawn, (especially if you tend to extend your brief errands). And finally: Never ever give up. Because just when you think its all over, you may just see the villain riding your damsel, waiting for you to seek revenge.


I'm entering this post in The February Scribbit Write-Away Contest.




Sunday, February 15, 2009

The Shocking News

I had a dream the other night about a friend of mine... A friend at work being pregnant. I told her a few days later about my dream, about how real it felt and how sure I was that she could have been pregnant. We talk about kids, babies a lot. Our baby itch, and urges. I was sure that's why I was having the dream. For kicks and giggles we looked up the meaning for dreaming about friends being pregnant and couldn't find any. A few days later I think I found the meaning...

Another friend of mine...One of my closest, best friends told me she's pregnant. My dream was the same day she found out. She also swore me to secrecy. She's only told another mutual friend and her husband the news, and she's terrified. I couldn't believe it, but the first emotion that surged through my body was jealousy. The second, only a millisecond later was extreme excitement. I couldn't believe it. But really... She was one of the last people I thought I'd cross off my "cool list." I really thought I'd have a child before her so this is probably some of the biggest news I've heard in a long time.

She's married. We've hung out together as couples and done things in the past. She and I have talked a little about kids... We both have a lot in common and waiting to have kids is/was a common denominator.

She told me how this came as a surprise to her. She missed a week of birth control, awaiting a new pack. Then went back on, but didn't use another form of BC during the first week back on it. She thought they'd be fine but apparently she's pretty fertile.

I'm so excited for her, and I am also spontaneously turning into an emotional wreck. She told me while I was at work, and an hour or two later it just hit me. It was so bad, I choked up while I was anchoring! No seriously, I was struggling through one of my scripts and had a hard time pulling it together. Luckily I was talking about death and fires so it sort of fit, but I had to get a grip before the cheery Valentines stuff.

I've already taken the roll of being her never-been-pregnant not-even-a-mom advisor. I'm practically planning her baby shower already! I'm really excited for her. She told me she doesn't know anyone her age with kids and I told her she should come to my church ;o) (If you're LDS you know what I mean).

She also said she's really nervous about providing for her child, continuing her career, gaining weight... A lot of things I've mentioned here. And while she told me she wished she had been thinking about the same things I've been thinking of the past year I just sat, listening, and wishing I was in her shoes. Yea, it'll be hard, it'll be a struggle, and you weren't expecting it. But it happened! What are you going to do? All you can do is be happy now!

I think I'm emotional because I'm shocked... I didn't expect it. And because we are SO much alike--Knowing she's having a child now makes me think I could do it. I think I'm jealous because getting pregnant unexpectedly takes so much pressure off. You just have to go with it. I think I'm a little pissed too... No wait, I think that's just the jealousy talking.

What has gotten into me?! Am I actaully saying I want one because she's having one? Seriously? WTF? I think it's more that that but I can't explain it. Can anyone explain this emotion? If I want a freakin' baby I can have a freakin' baby, so why am I jealous someone else, one of my best friends beat me to it?

So I just thought I'd journal about this extreme turn of events that's left me shocked, and feeling a hint of whiplash from my change in desires and decisions.

And seriously, if one more person tells me they're pregnant right now, I think I may punch them something...
Just kidding.
...Sortof. I may just scream and cry in my pillow.


Saturday, February 14, 2009

The Love Factor-- Things I'm Going to Miss Part 3

Well, it's Valentines Day. Happy Valentines Day! And I figure it's a good time to pose a question and concern I've been thinking about.
As I was babysitting two young girls last night so their parents could go out and celebrate Valentines Day, I thought how grateful I am that at a drop of a hat my husband and I can do whatever... Go out, make dinner together... And so on.

I got my dog Snoop last year for Valentines Day and I noticed how having a small puppy around kind of affected... Routines we'll say. It really bothered me. Eventually I got over it and things went back to normal but it was quite annoying at the time.
I think it's so important to continue to have couple time together, date nights and time to... Ya know, practice making babies and stuff.

It just seems that once kids come along that priority goes to the back burner for some, or it just becomes more difficult. What in the world do you do to fix that? Get ear muffs? Sedate the kids? Drive away and leave them for a night and hope they survived through the next morning?

I was reading a parenting magazine last night (funny I know, but it was just sitting there on the table ok?) And one of the articles was about women being angry at their husbands for not helping around the house, turning off the lights, understanding their children etc. To me it just seemed a little ridiculous and like a bunch of depressed and nagging women. I don't want that to happen to me!! I still want to be a happy woman and wife, as well as a happy mom. Some of the women complained that their husband's drive to have a love life went down and I kind of judgmentally thought 'Boy I wonder why!' That article is a discussion for a whole different topic but I'll use that part for example's sake.
Do you try to keep date nights together? How often? Right now every night is literally like a date night with me and my Boo and I wonder if it'll be a hard transition when we lose that one day.
This year we're keeping the holiday low key. I want a heart-shaped pizza from Papa Murphy's, some chocolate covered strawberries (my favorite) and a movie to snuggle up and watch. What are your plans?




Thursday, February 12, 2009

The Economy is Effecting Baby Makin' Plans Pt2.

If you haven't voted in the poll to the right please do. I'm curious to know what everyone else thinks of this dilemma. I came across this story, in the New York Times and quite frankly was disgusted. Times are tough... Yea, but this is a little disturbing. I think it would be scary going on maternity leave and worried about having a job to come back to... Especially now. But can you imagine not even being able to go on maternity leave, or even worse... Losing your job before then, and not being able to have your company pay for your labor and delivery bills. Yikes!

Could you ever imagine getting this desperate?:

Starla D. Darling, 27, was pregnant when she learned that her insurance coverage was about to end. She rushed to the hospital, took a medication to induce labor and then had an emergency Cesarean section, in the hope that her Blue Cross and Blue Shield plan would pay for the delivery.

I looked at some comments on a Blogher post about this article and found this one to be so heart wrenching:

I am 35 weeks pregnant (and diabetic) and will be losing my job in a couple of weeks, when I finish training my replacement. I work for a very small company who can get around FMLA laws (though I'm not sure about the Civil Rights Commission ones) and so they've just replaced me. When I took the job, I could only find part-time work, so we've relied on my husband's insurance, which is pretty terrible and will most likely end shortly after the baby is born.
I'm young, only 25, but this is the most terrifying thing I've had to go through. Where are we supposed to go for help? What happens if insurance decides not to cover anything? What happens if the baby gets sick? This economy has completely changed my view on life and the dynamics of my marriage ... and there's nothing we can do about it but hold on by the skin of our teeth and hope for something better soon.


Do you think about these things? My company seems to be doing pretty well right now, we've been told layoffs are not in sight but who knows right?

I know money shouldn't matter when it comes to having a child but how about insurance? I have friends who worry about their husbands (the sole income in the house) losing their jobs which in turn usually means losing their insurance. I'd be lying if I said I'm completely ok to have a child with things being the way they are in the economy.

What if our renter decides she doesn't want to rent out house anymore? What if I lose my job? I know you can't live your life in fear but in times like these it's not fear it's being cautious... It's being SMART. I know "if we're doing what's right we'll be blessed... yada yada," and I hate to be so cynical but the truth is: Bad things happen to good people. That's just reality.

Experts are actually saying that they predict less women will get pregnant while the economy is tanking. While it may make sense intuitively, it's slightly depressing. Less cute babies in the world means less happiness!

Am I alone or are there other women out there who worry about these same things? What do you do to keep going and not worry? And for all of the women out there who voted "it's not effecting my plans at all," why not? Do you feel like your/your husband's job is secure? I'd love to know what you're doing to work through this.


Tuesday, February 10, 2009

The Questions, Questions Anyone?

I almost didn't post today because my internet was getting transfered ahhhh! But alas! My computer is connected to Ethernet at the moment and I will soon find and unpack my wireless modem. Anywho...

Lately I've been noticing a few questions in the comments section. Usually I'll answer them directly in an email but then I was thinking "Hey, maybe someone else has the same question!" So, the next day or two... (Or forever until I get a bunch to answer), I'll open it up to questions??. If there's something you want to know about me, ask away! I don't believe in TMI, but others out there may, so maybe I'll leave the "possibly TMI" ones at the end or something as a warning to those who may not want to know that detail. So from my favorite color to my magic number of children, I'm game! I'll compile all of the questions into a post like this one but hopefully there will be more questions :o)

I'll start with a few questions I've already gotten so I don't forget:
1. Don't Be a Slut and Jaime have a similar question: What does your hubby think about your baby obsession?/ I'm just wondering how your husband feels about all of this baby talk?

Answer: As far as baby talk pertaining to the blog: He's happy I have a ventilation system. He knows I love to write, and he's glad that I'm excited to have a new avenue to write in. However he's a VERY private person so he does often say "Why did you write about that? Who cares?" As far as baby talk in general: It has toned down a lot since I started blogging about it. He knows I'm excited to have kids and that I like to blab about it a lot. He sometimes teases me about it but I think he thinks it's cute :)

2. From Anonymous commented on my Trip Part 3 post.: I'm certainly not trying to judge - but I got a little confused by seeing your wardrobe choices on your vacation. You did get married in the temple, right?
I just didn't notice any garments in several pictures. I am curious as to your opinion on this matter since you seem to be so open minded and willing to answer questions honestly.
I really hope this doesn't bother you, I am just curious!

Answer: I am very open (hopefully not too much) :o) Well, 90%... No, more like 99% of the trip I was wearing a bathing suit. I usually don't wear my Gs while I'm wearing bikinis. I wore cover-ups over my bathing suits which, while it made me look covered up for beach wear, it still is technically "immodest." The other 1% of the time I was either 1. Naked or 2. Throwing a dress and shrug over my bathing suit. Not much underwear wearing on my trip! ...I never said I was perfect.

As far as my opinion on the subject matter in general, I of course believe you should wear them all the time, I love mine! And that's really all I can say. I'm the LAST person to ask someone else about their garment-wearing situation. I don't really feel like it's any of my business. If I happen to notice someone isn't wearing them I can honestly say I don't assume the situation, I just really don't care.

3. And a few were wondering how my husband didn't know about this Blog.

Answer: He just joined Facebook, doesn't really understand blogging, and I'm just getting into it myself. I know he's private and he was already teasing me about things I'd write in our family blog so I just didn't tell him for awhile. I thought I'd tell him about it one day, maybe when we were expecting... But I guess he knew more about Facebook than I thought cause one day I mentioned something about a "baby bucket list" and he mentioned seeing it already here! I was a little embarrassed at first but now I'm so glad he knows cause I tell him all about what I'm writing and what yall say and write about!
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Ok so that's all of the questions I can remember for now! I may or may not be as elaborate in other questions you may have. Ask anything, really! And if you want you can ask anonymously. Meanwhile, I'm thinking of some questions I have for you all as well, to answer for me in another post!


Monday, February 9, 2009

The Secret

I'm not gonna lie (I start a lot of my crazy thoughts this way)... I've thought about it. But I know I could never, would ever, really do it... No, I wouldn't, for it is a sinful horrible plot.

...I'm talking about "forgetting" to take your birth control, "loosing track" of your fertility cycle, puncturing his protection... Down right SABOTAGE!! Then a couple of months later those surprising words: "Honey, guess what?!..." All the while he's oblivious, thinking it's a miracle from God cause Lord knows yall were taking precautions (or so HE thinks).

I've switched my birth control many times, mostly because I am forgetful and I could never remember to take my pill, then have to overdose a day or two later and consequently feel sick. I decided to go with a long-term form of BC because:

1. I change my mind a lot, and it would be so easy for me to one month be like "Ok I'm not taking it, let's have a baby" then next month be like "Oops... I change my mind" but have the possibility of not having that choice. This way I have to think about it more, and set up an appointment every time I change my mind (a little pricey).

And 2. (I can't believe I'm about to admit this) I worried I'd be tempted to "forget" to take the pill and not tell my very important, very suspicious better half.

As I thought about this I began to wonder how many other women think about this or maybe have even done it. Of course I think it's important both people are excited and ready to have a child but in real life surprises happen, so what if one of the spouses is surprised? On the other hand it's kind of the ultimate lie and I wonder if I ever tried to pull that if I'd 1. Be able to keep it a secret (probably not) and 2. If he'd forgive me if I told him. Yea, they'd get over it.. But what if they didn't? That would suck.
PS: For the record I think it's WRONG with a capital 'W.' No I'm not really contemplating it, but it's an interesting topic to blog about. So don't have a heart attack or anything ;0)
But what are your thoughts? Have you tried it? Done it? Know someone who has? You can post anonymously :o)

Sunday, February 8, 2009

The Cat's Out of the Bag

The Hub-a-lub knows about this blog now. I was saving it as a... Err, surprise but I guess he saw the links somewhere on my Facebook account so no more secret! It's kind of nice now too since this thing is consuming so much of my life right now and I can actually talk to him about funny tings I come across and interesting comments I get. It also explains why I don't have to bug him about kid stuff 24/7 now... I have a NEW outlet! So thank you all again for being my support group right now...Even though I've only had it for 2.5 months!!!

This blog has really turned into a fun composite of great advice from so many women! I know once you become a mother you're always a mother and that's something I'm really using to my advantage right now... Time I have to pick your brains of things maybe you didn't think of and wish you did, or just to learn about the things I have to look forward to. Either way, I'm learning a lot and making so many friends. You make me laugh and cry on a daily basis. I do have a few questions for you... What do you like about my blog? About blogs in general? I tend to post daily, is that too much? I'm already nearing 100 posts and I worry I'll either 1. Soon run out of things to say or 2. Overload you!.

Cheers to the world of blogging! I only wish I had known about this four years ago!