I've had a few dreams where my baby comes out completely white. She looks nothing like me... Blond hair, loose curls, big blue eyes. While I loved her in my dream I still felt a little disconnected because she didn't look anything like me. It felt like I was handed a friend's baby to permanently take care of.
One of the biggest mysteries after finding out the sex of your baby (I don’t know how people can wait an extra 20 weeks) is wondering what she’ll look like when she’s born. Many new parents -- especially moms-to-be -- bask in their daydreams of straight—No, curly hair. 3D and 4D ultrasounds can help answer some of the questions before they’re born. If you’re wondering what shape their ears are, or if she has your lips. I’m still thinking about getting one.
Spawnie has 23 of my chromosomes, and 23 of her daddy’s. It’s split! Fifty-fifty. But while most people would be betting on her eye or hair color I’m thinking about something totally different all together -- Her skin color.
My uncle married a light-skinned woman from Nicaragua, and he jokingly categorizes the way his kids came out. “The chocolate” and “the vanilla” ones, he’ll say, pointing to my two darker skinned cousins, beside their lighter-skinned siblings. It’s really quite fascinating.
My husband is white. He has blond hair and blue eyes. He tans well but he’s pretty much as white as they come. Ever since we started talking about having children we’ve been debating what color they’ll come out.
We are friends with another interracial couple who complexion wise looks a lot like us. We all spent a lot of time together in college and just before graduation they had their first baby. He’s one of the most beautiful babies I’ve ever seen, but it’s incredible to see what shade he came out!
I know people say kids darken as they get older but if you saw this toddler now you’d still be surprised. He has beautiful, fine goldilocks and big bright blue eyes. My friend says she may not have believed he was her own had she not birthed him herself.
They’re pregnant now with their second child and maybe it’s just me, but I’m really anxious to see what flavor the next one is!
My husband jokes with me, teases me, saying our daughter is going to come out completely white. I just worry that if that’s the case, between our tanning sessions, people will ask me silly questions. You know how people like to talk. My friend mentioned earlier said people have mistaken her as the nanny before and see -- I’m not sure I’d be able to handle that in a nice way. Or what if our daughter takes more of my complexion, and when my husband’s out he’s asked where he got our daughter from, implying she’s adopted. I’m not sure he’d be able to respond to that in a nice way (that's just one of my worries for my birracial child).
I suppose it comes as a part of the full package: Beautiful child -- ignorant comments.
I was debating getting a 3D ultrasound to see what our little girl looks like. Part of me wants to know if she has my cheeks, forehead, eye shape, or nose. My husband says we should wait and see what she looks like when she comes out. Maybe we should. Besides, technology hasn’t advanced enough to where 3D ultrasounds can tell me the flavor of our baby.
*****This is part of today's post I originally wrote on my blog for Parenting.com. Yep, I have a blog there too on Project Pregnancy. Check it out for more pregnancy updates and rants.
I had a lot of similar thoughts and feelings when I was pregnant with each one of my children. When my son was born, I wasn't surprised to see his skin a shade between my pale white and my husband's medium mocha. But then when my daughter was born and she was as pale as me with blond hair, it was a real shocker ... followed by her baby sister who is a shade between me and her brother with brown hair. It's strange how life is like that but makes the surprise all that much more worth waiting for.
ReplyDeleteIt depends on genes, doesn't it? It might be that your friend has a biracial or lighter ancestor in her family and that fact can influence the complexion of the children.
ReplyDeleteDue to the fact that hubby and I are similar to you and your hubby, sometimes I think about what worries you "been mistaken [for] the nanny. And hubby been asked where he got the child from, implying she’s adopted."
I am sure things will fine and people will be clever enough to notice the physical similarities. Wait and enjoy little Lady Bug, I wouldn’t do the 3D ultrasound now. xxxMsBabyPlan
Don't forget about Red Curlz!!!! Ha. I am thinking God is gonna give you EXACTLY the opposite of what you are hoping and dreaming of. And you will LOVE it. Do the 3D. You will still be surprised at what she looks like!
ReplyDeleteI'm new around here - I love your blog and how honest you are in your posts. I'm a new momma to a little boy, although he isn't biracial, I can tell you that as soon as you see your little girl, you will be completely and totally in love with her, regardless of who she looks like. And as the months progress, she will undoubtedly develop traits from both you and your husband.
ReplyDeleteAs for comments from other people (if it comes to that) those idiots don't even deserve the time of day from you if they do make stupid comments - that's just my opinion! :)
My daughter calls her daughter capucino. One day when she called her that she got excited because she said "yeah now I am Cheena like Maleah". Maleah is our youngest daughter who is adopted from China and gets called "Cheena" all the time here in CR!
ReplyDeleteI agree with meli. She's going to come out the complete opposite of what you have her imagined as. I thought we'd have a blond baby. My dad is blond and so is my fiance. Since Elise is 3/4 I thought her Asian genes would be overridden. Well, she came out looking like a blue eyed china doll! I love her and think she is the most gorgeous baby ever. I'm mixed as well so I think it's fun to see how babies turn out. One thing you know for sure? She'll be GORGEOUS
ReplyDeleteGreat Post! My Brother and Sister are Half Black and half white and they are so beautiful! Spawnie will be soooo pretty! What flavor? Perfect "Swirl"... :)
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MY brother just had a baby with his black girlfriend and he is so cute!
ReplyDeleteDark hair and fair skin. it is a perfect mix of the two parents!
This is what you will get, Jennifer! A perfect mix of the two of you!!
LOVED your post at MMB by the way!
I can definitely relate to your curiosity! :-) The "wait" (to find out what baby looks like) is the hardest part, but also the fun part. I say do the 3d ultrasound, but only if your insurance covers it (not worth it if its gonna be an extra few hundred bucks out of your pocket). While they're certainly fun, they can be really misleading, because without seeing the complexion and hair texture, the baby really can look so different.
ReplyDeleteGenes are funny that way.... I had all sorts of assumptions about what my baby would look like. I imagined a handsome, slim, little brown-skinned baby that looked like his mommy. I got a very light-skinned, curly haired boy who favors me but isn't my exact twin (mind you, neither me nor his dad are light). I do wonder what his brother will look like.... but its just so random I will have to just wait and find out! :-)
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Aww, I have a couple of friends who are biracial and to tell the truth the children can have all kinds of interesting colors. I wouldn't worry about it though. It's not uncommon these days and either way your baby will be beautiful and you will love and enjoy her! I hope everything turns out well!
ReplyDeleteI'm half black, half white-- and probably Halle Berry brown (but not as good looking). My husband is white-- tans well, but when I look at his (normally covered up) chest, I realize he's pretty white! So I was on pins and needles to see what color our daughter would be. Now that she's here, I'll tell you: she's almost exactly my color. I would have thought being 75% white and 25% black that she would have been lighter than she is, but I was wrong.
ReplyDeleteI love her the way she is, the shade she is, but I have to admit a very un-PC thing: I hope and pray she has hair like my husband's, not like mine. You know, "good" hair!
Even if you do the 3D ultrasound, it won't give you the whole picture. My little guy looks SO different now at nearly 2 years old than how he looked when he was born. They change so much! But, as everyone else is saying, I'm sure your daughter will be BEAUTIFUL!
ReplyDeleteMy niece is mixed and she's beautiful. Her skin color is beautiful, kind of like Halle Berry. But trust me, that kid could come out purple with orange polka dots and you'd still totally love her, although it might be difficult to explain.
ReplyDeleteWelcome to my world. I am caucasian(Irish/German= so pale you can see thru me) and my hubby is Filipino. We adopted 2 boys- one is as pale as me with red hair and the other one is half AA and half Fijian with very dark skin. Then we had 2 bio kids who look just look like my hubby- you cannot even tell I had a hand in making those children. We get comments all the time. My favorite was when our red head was a baby and some nosy lady just could not stop asking where he got all his red hair from. My hubby finally got fed up and gave her an answer she was not expecting. He told her "It was the darndest thing. Apparently my wife's fallopian tubes were rusty and the baby just came out with red hair." Then he smiled at her. She smiled and nodded like it made perfect sense. HA! We've had so much fun with people over the years. Once we had 2 foster babies at the same time who were the same age. One was caucasian and one was full AA. People kept asking if they were twins. We always said yes. Then had fun watching their expressions of confusion. We're so mean. Haha!
ReplyDeleteI hope this isn't offensive in some way, but mixed babies are ALWAYS beautiful. Really, it's something I've noticed - mixed babies tend to have very striking features. So whatever flavor, your little girl is going to be gorgeous. I've been thinking about a 3D ultrasound too, but mostly because I just want to confirm that the little one really is a girl!
ReplyDeleteI picture her as being a light chocolate brown...
ReplyDeleteI can't believe how light-skinned that baby is! I'm not much surprised, though. I once saw a picture of a set of fraternal twins who were biracial and one was very light skinned and the other quite dark. The looked alike in other ways, though, and they resembled both of their parents in some ways. Isn't God's genetic creativity beautiful?
ReplyDeletewow that baby is totally unexpected. Beautiful. OMG, I was so excited when I got my 3d sonogram. I loved it. I saw my little boy perfectly. His Beautiful little face, his toes, his hands were always up. I would highly recommend it. I'm posting the pic of mine next week on my site.
ReplyDeleteHubby and I are both black and out last child came out pure white! With big BLUE eyes! Blue freaking eyes! We were so suprised. But they only stayed blue for a few months. Now he's 18 months old and his eyes have changed to green. I was hoping they'd stay blue. How many black people do you know with blue eyes?
ReplyDeleteSpeaking as an adoptive mother who has a beautiful dark brown baby when we the parents are white, I can say it TRULY doesn't matter what shade your baby comes out..you will love her and bond with her no matter what!! I actually addressed the topic of color a little bit on a guest post with our adoption story at provofsa.blogspot.com if you want to check it out.
ReplyDeleteAs far as ignorant people and comments? It will happen because people are just as curious as they are ignorant. When my husband isn't with us people usually don't ask if our sons adopted because you never know, he could biologically be mine, but when we are out together as a family we do get a lot of questions and comments but they are ALL POSITIVE :)
I hope you get your 3D ultrasound I'd love to see the pics!
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Spawnie will be beautiful! I just know it! I have a strong feeling shell be my Zs coloring ;) you know I'm the pale redhead ex jerkwad was very dark african (ghanian to be exact)....& L well he's about your color & R is my lightest baby yet Dot is darker at birth than R....ok I'm rambling & making NO sense but shell be perfect
ReplyDeleteI completely understand where you are coming from. I was so excited to see what my Phoenix would end up looking like. Both my husband and I are bi-racial so I always wondered if that would make my baby a whole racial. Get it? Lame huh? We ended up with a fair skinned beautiful baby boy with red hair and he's a delight!
ReplyDeleteI wondered this my entire pregnancy and I remember being on the operating table exhausted but taking a peek at her as my husband held her and being totally shocked...she was ghost white. I am black (a medium brown complexion) and my husband is half white/half mexican (his complexion is dependant on what season it is) but generally if you look at him you can tell he is "mixed with something." Between our 2 families we literally have every shade of white and brown possible yet we were still completely shocked to see her. She pretty much stayed that pale ghost color until her first summer afterwhich she only retained a small amount of the tan she got that summer. I've never been asked if I'm the nanny but I'm sure there are those who have thought it. I came to realize that an adult will likely be more tactful than a child. I learned the hard way in church when a little girl turned and looked at me as I held my daughter and politely asked if she was my baby. I nodded yes and she leaned in closer to me and whispered, "you're real one." I couldn't help but laugh at that as I assured her that yes she was my "real" baby that I had carried in my tummy for a whole 39 weeks and 4 days!
ReplyDeleteI read about the story of the twin, and as i wrote before it is in the genes...
ReplyDeleteI can't wait to see what your daughter will look like. My kids are a good mix, i think. In the summer they get really dark, but in the winter they look pale. When we compare them to my brother's kids they are the "white" ones. But when we compare them to my husbands side of the family grandkids they are considered the "brown" ones. It's pretty funny. AGain, can't wait to see what she will be like.
ReplyDeleteIt WILL be interesting to see what she looks like! My sister in law is white and her husband is very dark-skinned. Their first daughter has light mocha skin and really soft wavy brown hair. The natural curl is just GORGEOUS. Their second daughter has lighter mocha skin but a major 'fro. Her hair is completely wild and unmanageable! They just had a little boy in October and so far he seems to be a little darker skinned like their older daughter and he has lots of hair but we aren't sure how curly it is going to end up yet. They're all just beautiful children, though. For some reason, I think mixed kids are sooooo pretty.
ReplyDeleteI have to say I have the same "worries" if you can call it that. I thought about getting the 3d ultrasound too but we decided to just wait and see when she gets here (6 weeks and counting!) I can't wait to see who she is going to favor more! It is a little nerveracking to think that your baby might not really look like you but I am sure no matter what they look like we will fall madly in love with them at first site!!!
ReplyDeleteI am white and my husband is black and our two year old daughter looks mexican! We called her mixacan for the longest time. She has curly redish brown hair and the biggest brown eyes. I had the same worries that you do. That she would look like me. But you know what, she looked like her daddy at first, but now, she's a spitting image of me with a tan! I'm totally jealous. No one can help but wonder what you're offspring is going to look like. Genes pools are crazy! Having a little girl (or any child) is amazing. Just wait until she tells you she loves you!
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OMG, I have this same debate with my mother-in-law. She thinks just because I have dark hair, and skin and light brown eyes the baby will look like her youngest son who is a dark hair and eyed version of my husband. My husband too is as white as they come, blond hair baby blue eyes. His brother is only his half brother and so things change with half sibling. However I am Mexican and Portuguese. Portuguese as I learned this week is considered Caucasian. However that is where I get my dark features from. Everyone genetically related to my husband had blond hair and blue eyes on both his mother and fathers side. My family on the Hispanic side are all very light in fact a cousin just had a blue eyed blond haired baby boy in November. My Portuguese side had all brown eyes but one blond and one strawberry blond with one dark haired baby in the middles. The kids can all tan but are considered light. I still think my little man is going to look like his daddy, but I will see if I am wrong. I want to do the 3d ultrasound as much as you do but I too wonder what will change when he is born and again over time. If you do get it done please post pics.
ReplyDeleteI had a friend (white) who is married to a guy from China, and anytime she'd be out with her kids people would either ask if they were adopted or if she was the nanny.
ReplyDeleteThose twins are crazy! How is that possible?!
ok everyone has said so many great comments so I will just relate with you. I saw half tongan babies and thought I can't wait for my brown baby. my first came out black hair, white skin. Snow White, no joke. then around 2 she darkened up, and now is almost as brown as her full tongan cousins. But I have a son who is very fair. and a girl who is 100%full tongan. When she was like 1 years old. someone asked me If I got her at birth? what? I go out with my kids and people think I am the babysitter. lol too fun. one will come out one way, and the next, another. that is the fun about having babies, you just never know. but you love them the same, white brown, black, green, or purple. Have fun. bwt- the only thing I wish is that Tongan eyes wasn't so strong... I would love a half tongan who had brown skin and blue eyes..
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ReplyDeleteThe twins picture is fascinating. It would be very difficult, I imagine, if the baby's color wasn't anything like yours. I've never considered that before... interesting.
That sure is a beautiful baby boy! And I can't believe those twins are twins!
ReplyDeleteIt is amazing and of course you want your kids to look like you. Even if you were both blonde, like hubby and me, people will still say stuff. Like hubby's Mom will say they all look like him or something like that, so it can be that way, too. And I think-hey, what about me?! None of them look like me?
We have a friend and she is German and her husband is Pakistani-the daughter is my daughter's best friend. You would not know those girls are the daughter of the German lady because they both look Pakistani.
Now my daughter has two little ones. And my daughter is really light like my hubby-Norweigan. So her hubby has real dark hair. Their little girl is a dark blonde. So the new little guy is so light that you wouldn't know that his daddy is really his Daddy! He has Mommy's coloring.
Kids-they are all so beautiful.
I think it is all cute and all interesting and it's not just color but features, body build, expressions, personalities.
It's God's design!
By the way, your little one is going to be just beautiful because you are and your hubby is good looking, too!
What a blessing you have coming soon!
A friend of mine has biracial twins, one of them has green eyes, and the other blue, and they both have this beautiful chocolate-cream skin... I guess it's something about mixing up the gene pool, but biracial kids/people seem to hit the jackpot in the looks department. I'm sure your baby will be beautiful, (both of you are very good looking people) and I'm betting on some shade of brown... How does your husband feel? Does he want a child that looks like he does?
ReplyDeleteI always wonder about "ignorant comments" about people's children, I just have a hard time believing that people mean any harm. Being mistaken for the nanny would definitely cause some heart ache- and I'm sure I wouldn't take it well all the time, but I think I would just have to explain the situation and have a laugh about it with that stranger.. "Actually, I thought they might have switched him at birth or something, but that's the baby I cooked for 9 months! Nature does some crazy things" Plus, how common is that? People wouldn't say that sort of thing to a fair skinned woman with a darker child, it's just genetically more likely (or so it seems to me) for the child to have medium to dark skin.
You could always do what my mom did- she started having my hair highlighted to match hers when it turned darker, around age 7. That only caused a minor identity crisis. :)
I'm so glad that I'm not only parent who was wondering what flavor their child was going to be. I come from a multiracial family already and to make matters more confusing, my daughter's father is half Native American, 25% black and 25% Italian. As a child, I struggled to find where I fit in. I came out chocolate flavored. So, it was hard for other people to believe that I was multiracial. When other black girls would talk about dating outside their race I couldn't relate and because I always put it out there that I wasn't going to limit myself to just being black because I had brown skin they tried to outcast me.
ReplyDeleteI didn't care because my parents explained that I was beautiful and that they loved me same even though I wasn't light skinned like my mom and younger sister. So, when I got pregnant I envisioned having a medium to dark skin child like me or my little brother. To everyone's surprise my daughter came out looking whiter than white with straight brown hair. For months, I got asked if her dad was white or hispanic.
I got asked if she was a friend's baby. Most surprising is that whenever we went out public I found white people staring at her giving her a look that said 'you're one of us.' My mom would always say 'if only they knew you guys are her biological parents.' Now, she's browned a little and I don't get as many crazy questions or stares like I used to when we stroll through the mall.
I think the biggest task you're going to have is teaching Spawnie how to embrace being biracial and letting her know that it's ok if she doesn't fit with the black kids or the white kids. We live in a society where skin color too much a of big deal. We are all people and that's all that matters.
Spawnie is going to beautiful and is going to be whatever flavor she decides she wants to be.
You never know! I have an Irish friend with red hair and she is married to a Korean man. I told her not to be surprised if her baby came out with red hair. She didn't believe me, but her baby was indeed born with red hair and blue eyes!
ReplyDeleteI used to work at a local retail store where a woman would come in with her four children all the time and I was a little confused for a little while because she is dark skinned and would have little boy and little girl that were dark skinned and a little boy and little girl that were light skinned with her. I just figured that the light skinned children were a friend's children she watched. It turns out that she had two sets of twins. First two little boys, one with dark curly hair, brown eyes and dark skin and the other with white blond curly hair, blue eyes, and seriously super pale skin. The same thing happened with her twin girls. I just thought it was the coolest thing because they looked so completely different but were twins. I would say don't even worry about it because no matter what she comes out looking like she will be gorgeous and you'll love her instantly.
ReplyDeleteI'm white and engaged to a darker skinned Mexican. We've talked a few times about what our kids might look like someday. I'm guessing kinda caramel-colored, which seems to be the usual result of a relationship like ours.
ReplyDeleteHe always says he hopes they're not too white, or no one's gonna think he's the father haha
Don't worry about people's comments or stares. I think most people are just curious. Honestly, when I see a biracial couple or mixed race kids I tend to stare, but only bc I think it's so cool! Times are changing :)
Anyway, you're gorgeous and your hubby's handsome, so you can't go wrong!
Isn't genetics fascinating.
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My sister-in-law is married to a Korean/American husband and I have to most beautiful twin nieces...we call them white baby and asian baby :) because they look so completely different. Your baby girl is going to be stunning!!!
ReplyDeleteThose twin girls are sooo cute. I am sure no matter what "flavor" your baby girl is, you are going to love her like you never thought possible.
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I never really wondered about what "flavor" my baby would be. My husband is very dutch, and I am very german, so it made sense to me that our children would be blond with blue eyes. And for the most part, that is accurate. My daughter was born blond and blue, so when i had my son, I was expecting the same thing... but to our surprise, he came out with a full head of PITCH BLACK hair! I was so surprised! But, that hair has since fallen out and he is now, blond and blue, just like we expected. :)
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Whatever flavor, it's sure to be scrumptious! Nothing like a new baby! Enjoy!
ReplyDeleteSo happy to have discovered your blog! I'm mixed myself, and have my mother's coloring although I look like my dad. I was anxious to know what coloring my baby would have, but also concerned that maybe 90% of my friends' babies look exactly like their dads. I was worried I would have a baby that was light skinned AND didn't look like I had anything to do with his creation.
ReplyDeleteWell it seems to have been for nothing, as the little guy came out exactly my color and the spitting image of me as a little girl. He is even more Salvadoran than I am, and has (supposedly) my grandfather's split chin (not sure how you say this in English - dimpled chin?) I have to admit I love it!
Your baby is gorgeous, she reminds me of my Shylah who is also biracial. YOu are blessed!
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Your baby is gorgeous, she reminds me of my Shylah who is also biracial. YOu are blessed!
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I'm white and engaged to a darker skinned Mexican. We've talked a few times about what our kids might look like someday. I'm guessing kinda caramel-colored, which seems to be the usual result of a relationship like ours.
ReplyDeleteHe always says he hopes they're not too white, or no one's gonna think he's the father haha
Don't worry about people's comments or stares. I think most people are just curious. Honestly, when I see a biracial couple or mixed race kids I tend to stare, but only bc I think it's so cool! Times are changing :)
Anyway, you're gorgeous and your hubby's handsome, so you can't go wrong!
I used to work at a local retail store where a woman would come in with her four children all the time and I was a little confused for a little while because she is dark skinned and would have little boy and little girl that were dark skinned and a little boy and little girl that were light skinned with her. I just figured that the light skinned children were a friend's children she watched. It turns out that she had two sets of twins. First two little boys, one with dark curly hair, brown eyes and dark skin and the other with white blond curly hair, blue eyes, and seriously super pale skin. The same thing happened with her twin girls. I just thought it was the coolest thing because they looked so completely different but were twins. I would say don't even worry about it because no matter what she comes out looking like she will be gorgeous and you'll love her instantly.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad that I'm not only parent who was wondering what flavor their child was going to be. I come from a multiracial family already and to make matters more confusing, my daughter's father is half Native American, 25% black and 25% Italian. As a child, I struggled to find where I fit in. I came out chocolate flavored. So, it was hard for other people to believe that I was multiracial. When other black girls would talk about dating outside their race I couldn't relate and because I always put it out there that I wasn't going to limit myself to just being black because I had brown skin they tried to outcast me.
ReplyDeleteI didn't care because my parents explained that I was beautiful and that they loved me same even though I wasn't light skinned like my mom and younger sister. So, when I got pregnant I envisioned having a medium to dark skin child like me or my little brother. To everyone's surprise my daughter came out looking whiter than white with straight brown hair. For months, I got asked if her dad was white or hispanic.
I got asked if she was a friend's baby. Most surprising is that whenever we went out public I found white people staring at her giving her a look that said 'you're one of us.' My mom would always say 'if only they knew you guys are her biological parents.' Now, she's browned a little and I don't get as many crazy questions or stares like I used to when we stroll through the mall.
I think the biggest task you're going to have is teaching Spawnie how to embrace being biracial and letting her know that it's ok if she doesn't fit with the black kids or the white kids. We live in a society where skin color too much a of big deal. We are all people and that's all that matters.
Spawnie is going to beautiful and is going to be whatever flavor she decides she wants to be.
A friend of mine has biracial twins, one of them has green eyes, and the other blue, and they both have this beautiful chocolate-cream skin... I guess it's something about mixing up the gene pool, but biracial kids/people seem to hit the jackpot in the looks department. I'm sure your baby will be beautiful, (both of you are very good looking people) and I'm betting on some shade of brown... How does your husband feel? Does he want a child that looks like he does?
ReplyDeleteI always wonder about "ignorant comments" about people's children, I just have a hard time believing that people mean any harm. Being mistaken for the nanny would definitely cause some heart ache- and I'm sure I wouldn't take it well all the time, but I think I would just have to explain the situation and have a laugh about it with that stranger.. "Actually, I thought they might have switched him at birth or something, but that's the baby I cooked for 9 months! Nature does some crazy things" Plus, how common is that? People wouldn't say that sort of thing to a fair skinned woman with a darker child, it's just genetically more likely (or so it seems to me) for the child to have medium to dark skin.
You could always do what my mom did- she started having my hair highlighted to match hers when it turned darker, around age 7. That only caused a minor identity crisis. :)
That sure is a beautiful baby boy! And I can't believe those twins are twins!
ReplyDeleteIt is amazing and of course you want your kids to look like you. Even if you were both blonde, like hubby and me, people will still say stuff. Like hubby's Mom will say they all look like him or something like that, so it can be that way, too. And I think-hey, what about me?! None of them look like me?
We have a friend and she is German and her husband is Pakistani-the daughter is my daughter's best friend. You would not know those girls are the daughter of the German lady because they both look Pakistani.
Now my daughter has two little ones. And my daughter is really light like my hubby-Norweigan. So her hubby has real dark hair. Their little girl is a dark blonde. So the new little guy is so light that you wouldn't know that his daddy is really his Daddy! He has Mommy's coloring.
Kids-they are all so beautiful.
I think it is all cute and all interesting and it's not just color but features, body build, expressions, personalities.
It's God's design!
By the way, your little one is going to be just beautiful because you are and your hubby is good looking, too!
What a blessing you have coming soon!
I wondered this my entire pregnancy and I remember being on the operating table exhausted but taking a peek at her as my husband held her and being totally shocked...she was ghost white. I am black (a medium brown complexion) and my husband is half white/half mexican (his complexion is dependant on what season it is) but generally if you look at him you can tell he is "mixed with something." Between our 2 families we literally have every shade of white and brown possible yet we were still completely shocked to see her. She pretty much stayed that pale ghost color until her first summer afterwhich she only retained a small amount of the tan she got that summer. I've never been asked if I'm the nanny but I'm sure there are those who have thought it. I came to realize that an adult will likely be more tactful than a child. I learned the hard way in church when a little girl turned and looked at me as I held my daughter and politely asked if she was my baby. I nodded yes and she leaned in closer to me and whispered, "you're real one." I couldn't help but laugh at that as I assured her that yes she was my "real" baby that I had carried in my tummy for a whole 39 weeks and 4 days!
ReplyDeleteAww, I have a couple of friends who are biracial and to tell the truth the children can have all kinds of interesting colors. I wouldn't worry about it though. It's not uncommon these days and either way your baby will be beautiful and you will love and enjoy her! I hope everything turns out well!
ReplyDeleteI'm new around here - I love your blog and how honest you are in your posts. I'm a new momma to a little boy, although he isn't biracial, I can tell you that as soon as you see your little girl, you will be completely and totally in love with her, regardless of who she looks like. And as the months progress, she will undoubtedly develop traits from both you and your husband.
ReplyDeleteAs for comments from other people (if it comes to that) those idiots don't even deserve the time of day from you if they do make stupid comments - that's just my opinion! :)